self esteem,self identity--摘自青少年發展課本+心得

為了去吉貝島,明天提早考試,不過有一些概念倒是提醒我很多東西,記錄下來慢慢咀嚼:

--too great a discrepancy between one's actual self and one's ideal self,can produce a sense of failure and self criticism and can even trigger depression.

--balancing between hoped-for and dreaded ideal selves.
attributes if the future positive self--can direct an adolescent's positive actions,while the attributes of the future negative self,can identify behaviors to be avoided.

--adolescent may feel that others do not understand their true selves ot that others force them to behave in false ways. (虛偽嗎?呼呼..對自己可以honest,但是,對別人呢?)

--self-esteem enhancement programs

--encouragement from teacher,or significant adult

--self esteem often increases when adolescents face a problem and try to cope with it rather than avoid it.(Lazarus,1991).Facing problems realistically,honestly and nondefensively produces favourable self-evaluative thought.(不是沒有辦法提高的)

--提高self esteem的方法:1)找出低自尊的原因2)提供social aprroval&emotional support3)幫助他達到achievement4)提升他的coping skills.

--adolescent who do not successfully resolve the identity crisis suffer what Erikson call identity confusion--isolating themselves from peers and family,or they immerse themselves in the world of peers and lose their identity in the crowd.(一生人,都會不斷需要面對的課題吧!self-identity確定的部份,who am i?where i am going?what am i all about?)

--an individual who develops a healthy identity is flexibly and adaptive,open to changes in society,in relationship,and in careers.

--identity formation can be long,drawn out process,with many negations and affirmations of various roles.

我雖無法立刻達到identity formation,不過至少目前應該要pray God so that在扮演什麼角色的時候就要想什麼吧!盡力扮演好every role(不過不一定確定這是不是我想要的role,contradicted?不過,喜歡的,或是已經託付在我身上的,就要盡力而為吧!)

不知道為什麼忽然想起這件事:
有的人在這個地方看到機會,歸宿,所以他們願意留下來.
有的人卻看到懼怕、封閉,所以急著逃亡.
這是我目前對於來台灣的看法.
可能是因為,我自己也在面對identity confusion這件事情吧!