FRIENDS-Barrett 2004-2007

今天閱讀了一篇關於CBT相關對年輕人的治療配套,跟這個學期去國中幫學生上的得勝者課程有雷同之處,真奇妙!
透過FRIENDS的概念,focus在年輕在social跟情緒的學習,發展自我,情緒調解和管理的方法,提升個人對自己的責任.教育年輕人這些概念,真的很重要!裡面有基本的,教導辨識情緒,調解情緒,面對衝突的方法,交友技巧,問題解決能力,改變想法,讓自己放鬆等等.是一個學校輔導課,很好的guidelines

1)Feelings:
-awareness of emotional responses and regulation(發現情緒,思考如何反應和調節)
-uses colorful pictures to demonstrate feelings(道具)
-concept of being brave:
~~~brave behaviors(i.e. social skills):
looking ppl in the eye, using brave voice, smiling, standing up tall, giving sth try.
-promotion of a positive self-identity: try to accept similarities and differences among ppl.
-family members are encourage to discuss feelings openly with each other(我好需要他!也希望自己能夠成為這樣的人,feeling doesn't hurt,要發現它,照顧它,而非忽略它)

2)Remember to relax:
-diaphragmatic breathing,PMR,visualization
-provide body pictures clues
-lying in the grass under a tree,listening to quiet music at home(小時候有空的時候真的很愛)
-going for a walk along the beach reading stories and drawing pictures(現在希望自己可以透過畫圖讓自己開心)

3)I can do it:(想法帶動情緒,看看自己有甚麼樣的想法,去分析和挑戰)
-aware to self-talk and inner thoughts:red=unhelpful green=helpful
-challenge red unhelpful thought and alternate helpful green thoughts
-attention-training strategies:pay attention to the positive aspects
-challenge:ask your self:Is That True?!!!// Are u 100% sure that will happen?

4)Explore solutions and coping steps plans:
~SIX BLOCK PROBLEM SOLVING　PLAN (解決方法步驟,列出可能的解決方法,然後去面對,以後我要去實習的話,應該就是需要用到這個部分來幫助自己解決資源的問題吧!!!!)
1)what is the problem?define it!
2)brainstorm:list all possible solutions
3)list what might happen for each solution
4)select the best solution based on the consequences
5)make a plan for putting this solution and practice for it
6)evaluate the outcome of strength and weakness,if it did not work return to step 2 again.

~CALM model(conflict resolution)(人生重大議題:表達不相同的意見:我是個害怕衝突的人,覺得這個方法可能都知道,但是對自己有相當的自信,不要輕易得妥協或者就此相信別人也很重要!)-->恩,在治療關係當中,有時候很辛苦就是你有你的想法,但是不能強加在人的身上,要做對他來說最好的事,但是如何才是算對他來說最好呢?(我又不是上帝!><)
1)Calm doen when in conflict situation
2)Actively listen to the other person and what he or she wants
3)List their own needs in the situation
4)Make a solution based on a compromise btw both person's needs

~Friendship skills:sharing,helping,listening,smiling (人生另一重大議題:人際關係)

5)Now reward yourself!:
-reward yourself whenever you try your best!

6)Don't forget to practice: reminds skills and strategies

7)Stay happy: stay calm,因為你有effective的coping 方法!