introduction-摘要frm adolescent psychology

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--criteria for determining adulthood:
1)self-responsibility
2)independent decision making
3)economic independence
(難怪我一直懷疑自己到底是不是長大了阿,因為還沒有達到以上標準,所以還不算:P好好享受當adolescent的時光吧!)

--psychology had became an overly grim science in which people were too often characterized as being passive victims.
Psychologists are now calling for a focus on the positive side of human experience and greater emphasis on hope,optimism,positive indibidual traits....etc.(對呀!人也有光明的一面的呢!喔,好想去學positive psychology喔~)

--Adult often potray today's adolescent as more troubled,unnerving,less respectful,more self-centered..than they were.(都是對年輕一代的刻板印象啊!)
It is enourmous error to confuse adolescents' enthusiasm for trying on new identities and indulging in ocassional episodes of outrageous behavior with hostility toward prarental and societal standards.(come on,just give us some time to try it!!!dont be criticism~)

--Growing up has never been easy.(do u agree?)

--the transition between adolescent and adulthhood can be long one as adolescent develop more effective skills to become full members of society.(現在當大人越來越不容易了,因為要求的東西更多了阿!)

--emerging adult-->exploring which career path they want to follow,what they want their identity to be,and which lifestyle they want to adopt.(18-25歲,include me!)

self esteem,self identity--摘自青少年發展課本+心得

為了去吉貝島,明天提早考試,不過有一些概念倒是提醒我很多東西,記錄下來慢慢咀嚼:

--too great a discrepancy between one's actual self and one's ideal self,can produce a sense of failure and self criticism and can even trigger depression.

--balancing between hoped-for and dreaded ideal selves.
attributes if the future positive self--can direct an adolescent's positive actions,while the attributes of the future negative self,can identify behaviors to be avoided.

--adolescent may feel that others do not understand their true selves ot that others force them to behave in false ways. (虛偽嗎?呼呼..對自己可以honest,但是,對別人呢?)

--self-esteem enhancement programs

--encouragement from teacher,or significant adult

--self esteem often increases when adolescents face a problem and try to cope with it rather than avoid it.(Lazarus,1991).Facing problems realistically,honestly and nondefensively produces favourable self-evaluative thought.(不是沒有辦法提高的)

--提高self esteem的方法:1)找出低自尊的原因2)提供social aprroval&emotional support3)幫助他達到achievement4)提升他的coping skills.

--adolescent who do not successfully resolve the identity crisis suffer what Erikson call identity confusion--isolating themselves from peers and family,or they immerse themselves in the world of peers and lose their identity in the crowd.(一生人,都會不斷需要面對的課題吧!self-identity確定的部份,who am i?where i am going?what am i all about?)

--an individual who develops a healthy identity is flexibly and adaptive,open to changes in society,in relationship,and in careers.

--identity formation can be long,drawn out process,with many negations and affirmations of various roles.

我雖無法立刻達到identity formation,不過至少目前應該要pray God so that在扮演什麼角色的時候就要想什麼吧!盡力扮演好every role(不過不一定確定這是不是我想要的role,contradicted?不過,喜歡的,或是已經託付在我身上的,就要盡力而為吧!)

不知道為什麼忽然想起這件事:
有的人在這個地方看到機會,歸宿,所以他們願意留下來.
有的人卻看到懼怕、封閉,所以急著逃亡.
這是我目前對於來台灣的看法.
可能是因為,我自己也在面對identity confusion這件事情吧!

homesickness

i know大學很好玩,很幸福.
but,i am just like a壞掉的電腦,cant think much of it,please,can someone moving me on?
and,i think i am a kind of homesickeness.
loss of brave,miss home so much.miss that kind of comfortness,hem,why?
anxiety of seperation?
loss of control?
oh goss,which model use to explain me now?
it is this called fail to accept challenge?
then create the feeling called unhappiness?aha!

face your life with all your heart!

gambate!exam week!

face it bravely,and you will find it is not as horror as you think,babe.
God,please help me,please hold me,plese comfort me,please guiding me.
move it on~^^

thank you

thank you to talk with you,lenglui no.2,

xiao qiang no.1~

feel comforted!ha!thanks~^^

恍然大悟...

我喜歡恍然大悟!
現在,有一種恍然大悟的感覺!
在為了寫認知與腦神經的報告看腦的3D圖時候,
搞不懂basal ganglia,amygdala,hippocampus,thalamus的真實位子,花了將近1小時半才連結起來!
心想,上學期那堂害我每次考試都要看到天亮的生理心理學該不會有這方面的紀錄吧?!
翻開書!氣死我了!都清清楚楚記載在裡面,發現以前根本跟他們不熟!雖然考試時候都背起來,什麼LGN,MGN嘛!什麼用的都不清不楚...><
今天,總於搞懂了!有一種相見恨晚的感覺,也有一種感動,因為原來這麼清楚.
為何生心上得如此失敗?除了老師真的很不會講課以外,天阿!我發現,我真的是一個很不主動的學生,只要老師教不清楚,就是老師錯,自己都沒有主動上網找過,這些資料在網路啊,wikipedia都清楚記載!太被動了!!!!
需要改過自新啊,同協!~
恍然大悟,真的好感動T.T

挑戰與承擔

「我對年輕人有一個莫名其妙地迷信，我一廂情願地相信他們是未來中國社會與中國教會地希望....我期望年輕的他們有相應於年輕的心靈，可以看見現實裡種種的不理想不完美，高喊世界原來不該是這樣子的。....年輕人，且不要抱怨這世界對你不公平，也不要以為這世界是不能改變的。....像我這一代的人很快就會過去。我們離開的速度之快，是你們如今想像不到的。....從前自覺身處建制外，要在言語行為上否定建制的一切，推倒現實的一切並不是太困難的事....但如今在建制內，要考慮的已不僅是否定與推倒，而是在推倒現實後，我有什麼可以取代？(What is the alternative？)....當我察覺我連昔日自己提過的問題至今仍不具備答案，我告訴你，這種恐懼與徬徨是很難挨的。」

--上面這段文字取自梁家麟老師在『挑戰與承擔』一書的前言。